We have all had talks in which the topic connected with one spouse cheating another is mentioned and not too long ago I was in this kind of conversation with a friend who was sharing with me that her spouse was in fact using her credit card to pay for conversations with an adult line service and that the idea that he was using her dollars to purchase intimacy appeared to be what had really distressed her “I am thankful that they were affordable phone sex chats” my friend ultimately pointed out concerning all those phonesex talks he had been enjoying without her knowledge, as if he should really be thanked for his wisdom for locating cheap live phone sex chats as opposed to more expensive adult phone numbers! I asked if that was the main reason she was annoyed about, let’s be honest, if my own boyfriend had been the one having sexual one-on-one intimate discussions with other females, I suspect I might have gotten furious about the whole thing!
After all, the internet is full with offers of 1-on-1 phone sex,
invitations for intimate 1 on 1 live web cam shows where intimacy is the
keyword.
I actually know plenty of people, who are single or in between
relationships who do use this type of adult entertainment. However what
if you were in a relationship and you found out that your partner did
more than think about it! He actually used it for himself. What would
you do? Would you forgive him as my friend just did (she learned that
her beloved husband was getting in touch with a sex phone line for some
supplemental “delight”, and not just that he used her credit card “but”
showed “signs of wisdom” in electing to waste her own cash on Cheap
Phone Sex offers!), or would you be less inclined to forgive him? Here
is what my friend told me when I asked if she was angry with her
husband!
“If I’m completely honest with you, it didn’t bother me that much! What I mean to say that although I wasn’t really happy about him chatting other women over the phone, I was more upset because he had been using my money to pay for these calls. You may say that what he did was cheating, and I would understand your point of view, but at the end of the day, this is not how I saw that. Were his actions welcome? No. Not really. Were they reprehensible? I don’t feel so. You and I know perfectly well what we sometime get up to when we go out together, I mean we do anything physical with anyone, but we do indulge in a fair amount of sexual banter with people ourselves, don’t we! So no… I wasn’t angry!”
Her reaction gave me food for thoughts. It had undoubtedly taken me aback, and I couldn’t help believing that she may very well be right about this. In any case, everyone knows that the ladies who pick those calls are nothing like the photographs they publish on their web pages thus it may very well be possible that it’s not the woman her husband phoned that he was having phonesex with, but instead a dream, a voice who was whomever he wanted her to be.
Had I not caught my own husband watching porn on several occasions, without me? “I caught Bob (my own husband) watching porn on his iPhone the other day! I told her. “If I am honest with myself, I would say that yes, I was angry, but more so because I felt left out”!
However even as I was preparing to make my own argument further, my friend interrupted me.
“Wait… It wasn’t as if I was completely ok with the whole thing, but really I could not see any harm in whatever he had done. I did tell him off for the fact that he used my credit card without my knowledge, and as I was talking to him about it, it suddenly dawned on me that I might have liked to have been involved in the next call. So I told him so. I said that any time he had the need to seek release with some adult phone girl, I wanted to be included in the conversation, either in the background, just listening in, or actively involved in it”
That “floored me”! Literally knocked me off my seat! This was my lovely, innocent child hood friend! The girl who still went bright red whenever she heard a joke of a more “earthy” nature. And now she was telling me that the idea of joining in with her husband and a third party was appealing to her!
“Don’t tell me that you did!” I asked her!
“Of course I did! And I loved it. It was quite an experience and all I can tell you is that you should try it!”